My son was recently diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. Upon this diagnose, my son's school counselor repeated over and over "you are your son's advocate". I am his shield when he knows no difference. So, I find that I become momma bear very easily when situation arise that paint my son in harsh light. I should also mention that my son has difficulty lying. I know, "yeah, right". No really. If I ask if he's not done something more often than not, he will answer he hasn't. Of course, I'm thinking, don't most nine-year-olds say the opposite?
So that brings us to today. My son is being punished TOMORROW, for calling a girl a cuss word, YESTERDAY. Now I agree punishment for the cuss word, YES. But if it was so hurtful, why did it take a day for the girl to tell a teacher (because the teacher had no knowledge of it)? And if we begin to punish for past performances what is the statue of limitations? And if my son hadn't of been so honest, who's word would of won out if he had lied and said he didn't say it?
Again, not advocating lying but just wondering.
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My son, Aiden has ADD/ADHD also and I agree that you have to be your son's advocate. It is exhausting but he will fall between the cracks if you don't. I make sure his teacher knows that we are actively involved in his education because kids like our sons too easily merely get labeled as "problem children" when really they are not, they just need extra guidance.
I have experienced that immediacy of consequences is essential when disciplining a child like our sons. Unfortunately at school that isn't in our hands as much as is needed so I just make sure to nip it at home as quickly as possible.
just give him lots of hugs and kisses so he knows he is loved and important!
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